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I Made This Ashtray One Time…

21 Mar

Meraki [may-rah-kee]  This is a word that modern Greeks often use to describe doing something with soul, creativity, or love — when you put “something of yourself” into what you’re doing, whatever it may be.

Sculpture by Frank Stout

Sculpture by Frank Stout (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

I heart Rarasaur and Prompts for the Promptless, and this amazing Greek word meraki to the moon and back.  To me it means being impassioned and intense, happy and enthusiastic, loving and giving, all wrapped up in one beautiful little meraki package.

In art meraki could be the colors you use, in writing perhaps it’s the words you choose.  In photography it’s the subjects you see, and your unique point of view and the composition and what you do with tricks of the light to show us not just the picture, but something about the person who took it.

In cooking I imagine it’s the ingredients and the timing and the methods of putting everything together, and then the presentation and a bunch of other mysterious stuff that eludes me.  But never doubt that I put LOVE in my unidentifiable concoctions.

At a very young age (too young to know any better) I thought I would like to one day become a great sculptor.  Or at least dabble in pottery, because that wheel sure looked like some serious fun.  The idea was born with an art project in school where we were each given a lump of clay and advised to make something of our own choosing.  I painstakingly shaped mine into an ashtray.  And not just any old ashtray – this had to be the best and most beautiful ashtray in the world, a present for my mother.  Something just from me.  Something she could love and cherish for ever and ever.

A lot of creativity went into my work, if you count smashing the stupid thing and reshaping it a million times trying to get everything symmetrically perfect.  I molded my heart and soul into that stubborn little piece of clay.  When I was satisfied at last with the results (and my fingers were about ready to fall off)  I chose a shockingly brilliant electric blue for my glaze.  After it was baked and cooled and admired by all (we were kids, what did we know?) I carefully wrapped my creation in tissue paper and carted it home.

It looked nothing like this, except maybe in my dreams.

It looked nothing like this, except maybe in my dreams.

 

I was so incredibly proud to present the fruits of my labor to my mother, who did not smoke.  No one in our house smoked.  We didn’t even know anyone who was thinking about taking up the habit.  She professed to admire and love the ashtray anyway.  We decided it would make a great conversation piece and she gave it a place of honor on the window sill above the kitchen sink.  After awhile I got really tired of all the conversations about it starting off with “oh my goodness, what in the world is that?” But I never tired of hearing my mom explain how hard I had worked to make my very first piece of pottery.  It was like she knew there was the equivalent of blood sweat and tears in that thing, never mind a little girls heart and soul full of love for her mother.

I don’t know what happened to it.  And frankly I don’t care, it was butt ugly – even the artist herself came around to admitting that fact in time.  But it didn’t stop me from continuing on in life creating things with love and good intentions.  And my mother certainly taught me how important it was to appreciate whatever my own kids did from their hearts for me.

I never knew there was a word for putting yourself and a little piece of your very soul into whatever you create with passion and love, but I’ve certainly seen the evidence of it all around me.  It’s everywhere I look.

The next little miracle I come across I will be able to describe with delight and just one small and perfect word - meraki.

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20 Responses to I Made This Ashtray One Time…

  1. oregana

    March 21, 2013 at 1:48 am

    Haha! I will be blogging about ashtrays from the past soon. I have a series of blog posts coming up. I just may have to point to yours. :)

     
    • grandmalin

      March 22, 2013 at 5:45 pm

      Ashtrays from the past – great subject! I had some very decorative ones at one point, but I think I’ve thrown them all away.

       
  2. kirkykoo79

    March 21, 2013 at 2:14 am

    I wondered what made you choose an ashtray…? Your mother sounds like a smart lady – I shall try to emulate her when the Jam starts making presents for me!

     
    • grandmalin

      March 22, 2013 at 5:48 pm

      No clue why I thought an ashtray was a good idea. Yes, if you act sufficiently grateful, it will keep those presents coming for many years! haha

       
  3. cyclingrandma

    March 21, 2013 at 6:18 am

    I still have some treasures around the house the kids made at various stages- school, camp, etc.
    And my mother has art we made too. Funny how no one has ashtrays in their homes anymore compared to years past.

     
    • grandmalin

      March 22, 2013 at 5:52 pm

      Remember when they were on restaurant tables? Or am I even older than I think? lol

       
  4. georgefloreswrite

    March 21, 2013 at 9:54 am

    Your mom sounds like my mom – she was always able to spot the meraki and treat my little projects like they were precious. What a lovely memory to share with us – I love the place of honor at the kitchen windowsill, a place where she would always see it, so it must have been beautiful in her eyes!

     
    • grandmalin

      March 22, 2013 at 5:56 pm

      Or…..she wanted to keep it the hell out of the china cabinet…lol. Yes, moms are generally easy to please when there’s genuine love involved.

       
  5. Kozo

    March 21, 2013 at 4:15 pm

    Your life is meraki, Grandmalin. {{{Hugs}}} Kozo

     
    • grandmalin

      March 22, 2013 at 6:01 pm

      I guess I do tend to share myself generously whether people are ready for it or not…haha. :) Meraki hugs to you too.

       
  6. rarasaur

    March 22, 2013 at 4:26 am

    What a beautiful memory! *hugs* I love the picture you showed of how the ashtray looked in your mind, haha, I do that too– I have memories of how things were supposed to look rather than what they actually looked like. The gift of recognizing and showing appreciation is a wonderful gift for a mother to pass on to her children… I’m glad your family has that legacy! :)

     
    • grandmalin

      March 22, 2013 at 6:07 pm

      Me too. It’s never the things themselves that are worth anything, it’s all about the feelings they elicit.

       
  7. SchmidleysScribbling

    March 22, 2013 at 3:41 pm

    I too have a few old treasures made by kids. Most of mine have long since disappeared. We have a rabbit missing an ear, an elephant missing an ear, and me, missing a few teeth. Dianne

     
  8. Evolution of X

    March 22, 2013 at 5:31 pm

    “…to my mother who did not smoke.” Heh heh! Great story.

     
    • grandmalin

      March 22, 2013 at 6:09 pm

      I also gave her clip on ear rings once, although she rarely wore jewelry, and never ear rings. My gift giving skills have improved a little bit since then. I think.

       
  9. seeker

    March 23, 2013 at 10:15 pm

    Ash trays are good coffee table ice breaker.

     

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