365 Writing Prompts January 6 – My Favorite: What’s the most time you’ve ever spent apart from your favorite person? Tell us about it.
I’ve got as many different favorite people in my life as there are reasons for having them so it’s not possible to come up with some finite time period to describe to you. Who keeps track of that kind of stuff anyway? An hour can feel like forever and years can pass by in the twinkling of an eye.
If there’s anything I’ve learned in this life it’s that everything changes. A high school teacher once told us, after a train accident (of all things) had taken the life of one of our classmates, that this was the time in our lives when we would start to experience the grief of death and loss, and that it would continue to get worse as we got older. Imagine that, life being even more depressing after high school. It starts much sooner for some of us of course, when a beloved grandparent or uncle or simply someone we assumed would always be around is suddenly physically gone.
But here’s the good thing about that. If we remember them, they never really leave us. Everyone we’ve ever met becomes a small part of who we are. I miss the physical presence of my mother but in every other way she is still with me. I think she will be inside me for eternity, in my head and in my heart. Maybe my eternity will last eighty years, or maybe it’s already into eons if my soul is as old as I’ve been told. That either matters or it doesn’t. Does time have to be measured?
Another thing I’ve learned is that the only one who will for certain be with me for the duration is me. I am the common denominator in this great math problem known as my life. So that should make me my all time favorite person and either a raging ego maniac or someone simply comfortable in her own skin. I can’t get away from myself, no matter what role I choose to play. Might as well like who I am with all the labels stripped away.
A casual friend tried to convince me once that the absolute worst and most feared state we face as human beings is to be alone. She is that person all of us have bumped into at some time or other who asks for our opinion so that she can go on and on at great length explaining to us why it is not only wrong but also stupid. I think that explains why we’re not really close. When I was silly enough to mention that I love my alone time, she just said, no, you don’t. Inconceivable that anyone could be on their own and happy about it.
Being alone was actually preferable to her company right about then, although I think she would have found that idea preposterous. Just a guess. But I do like my own company, I like the quiet and the stillness and how relaxed I feel when I’m being perfectly me with no one to impress or entertain or piss off with my dumb opinions.
If you have a favorite person and you hate it when that person goes away, that’s okay, but it’s also not something to get obsessed about. Things change. If that person never comes back, you will go on living. The hole in your life will fill back up and even though it will never be the same, it can still be good.
Well, is that enough blather for today? Enough of me talking to myself and wishing I would shut up already so I can go read a book or something? I think that’s a yes. See how agreeable I am? I love me.
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🙂 I really enjoyed this post. I love my alone time too btw. Your “friend” has got a screw loose.
Yes, I think you’re right. But I won’t be the one to tell her. lol
OMG I think we must be friends with the same person. And here I thought I was the only wrong-headed, dumb person she knew! LOL And I love my alone time, sacrificing it only for my hubby and my babies and not for any so-and-so’s.
Haha – I guess she gets around. Yes, time with family is right up there at the top of the list. It’s hard when babies need so much from us but kind of a let down when they don’t any more.
I have a 4 year old daughter still, and I love that she needs me. I love that she climbs on my lap at dinner, almost absently. Just stands up, swings a leg over and drags her plate closer. Not a word exchanged. 🙂
I don’t mind alone time either (in fact, if I’m around people too much, I get cranky.)
I remember in high school, missing a boyfriend while on a family vacation..it was almost an obsession and not healthy at all!
Enough of my yammering on…I’ll leave you “alone” now “)
It takes a long time to realize that another person isn’t responsible for our happiness, or lack of it. Thank God we only go to high school once! Enjoy your alone time. xo
With three kids and 8grandkids can’t have a favorite.
Exactly. I’m right behind you with two and five. Trying to spread the love around in equal portions.
I love you too 🙂
And all the blather you write.
Well thank you for loving me and my blather. We probably help you appreciate peace and quiet. lol. Love you too xxx
Great post. Being alone–even at times in a relationship–is necessary. A lot of people can’t seem to “do” alone. I can and I think it’s very definitely a good thing.