You Can Always Start Over From Here

Daily Post Writing Challenge:  Starting Over

Same Old Brand New You

Same Old Brand New You (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Starting over in time is not possible no matter how fervently you might wish for it.  Time marches on, and do-overs of your past are nothing more than head games.  Stop torturing yourself with regrets, wondering how things might have turned out if you had done them differently.  You can’t change where you’ve been, but you can start now and head off in a different and better direction.  Starting over means starting from where you are now.  Here’s a starting over list to get you started.

1.  You can’t go back and start your childhood over again.  For one thing, your parents are too old for that now and would never be able to keep up with you.  And it’s just too difficult to find onsies in your size.

But you can still  build a fort out of the couch cushions, color a picture with your crayons and tack it up on your fridge, or leap from one piece of furniture to another to avoid the lava and the monsters whenever you feel like it.  Try not to break your neck – you’re not five years old anymore.  But no matter what age you are,  it’s still okay to cry when things go wrong.  You can still  laugh hard and play hard and love with all your heart.

2.  You can never take back the words you’ve spoken, or written, or sent by text.  Once they’ve left your mouth or your pen or your fingers, they will forever belong to whoever heard or read them.  They have power.  Will they be hurtful or helpful?  It’s not possible to un-say something, so try very hard to get it right the first time.  When all else fails, blame temporary insanity and auto-correct.

3.  You can’t unbreak things.  But you can try to mend them.  As in the case of ‘hearts’ for instance.  But if we’re talking about some piece of crap junk that never worked right in the first place, save yourself some grief and agony and get a new one.  It’s only a thing.  It won’t hold a grudge.

4.  Baking cannot be unburned.  But there are windows you can open to let the smoke out.

5. If you are a parent who has your childs best interests at heart, you still will not always do or be what they need most.  Forgive yourself.  You are human and you will make mistakes.  Learn from both your kids and your blunders, start over from here and try to do better.

6. If it’s not possible to start over in a new job, start making small changes that will help to make your present job easier.  You can’t change the people you work with, but you can change the way you act and react with them.  You can change your attitude.  I’m not suggesting it’s easy to do that, but I am telling you it’s not impossible.

7.  You might not be in a financial position to burn your house down and rebuild it, but you can start over in one room, or in one small section of a room, and renovate and reorganize and revamp until you’re so happy with the results you want to spend all your home time in that exact spot.  Well, you know, within reason.  Hopefully we’re not discussing a closet here.

8.  It may be a little late in your life to start over with a brand new career, but it is never too late to learn a new skill or to change the path you’re on.  It’s never too late to teach someone else the things you know.

Brand New Day

Brand New Day (Photo credit: Tim Albano)

9.  You can’t start over from the beginning and have a better relationship with somebody.  And it’s a very sad thing to discover that the person you wanted to be closer to has suddenly gone from your life and that you will never have the chance to work on that relationship and to know him better.  Learn, learn, learn from this.  Don’t wait for the bond to miraculously form on its own, start working on it now.

10.  You can never start over and take better school pictures of yourself and change that geeky face that only a mother could love.  You can’t re-write your high school year books or change who your friends were or any of the decisions you made as a young adult.  But you can learn to love the person you were, and know that the choices you made then are the reasons you have become who you are now.

Right this minute, tomorrow morning, next week – you can start over from wherever you happen to be.  The changes do not have to be sudden or tumultuous.  Second chances and new beginnings can start small, and from deep within.

This is where you’ve landed – now spread your wings and fly.

Pictures From Moms Kitchen (Part Two)

He followed me into the house – can I keep him?

“Yikes – I think there’s a ghost behind us!” “Really? HAHA Nothing scares me – everything makes me laugh. Everything. Life is hilarious.”

Me and my happy happy boy.

All ready to go to Aunt Ann’s wedding.

Grandpa McArthur tells the best stories and sings the silliest songs.

Yes, in this kitchen I slathered jam on my toast.  It was homemade.  It was delicious.  There were some things I was powerless to resist.  However, the instant coffee was not one of them.  I got a coffee maker for my mother, and she dutifully hauled it out for me every time we came to visit.

November Kiai

Once again my horoscope calls it like it is.

You may feel like you need C-3PO, the translator droid from Star Wars … just to make sense of the bizarre gobbledygook coming out of your own mouth.

Kiai

Kiai (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

It’s a little scary how they know me so well.  Sorry if you thought this post might be about karate, because it’s not.  It’s about my strong desire to karate chop November into oblivion with a mighty spirit yell.  Everyone who thinks like I do would have gotten all that simply from reading the title.  So that would probably be  a whole lot of people  exactly no one.

Okay!  Most of us here have survived the first really big snowfall of the season in the last couple of days.  There have been accidents and there have been fatalities.  The roads are horrible, but there are still those among us who believe we should all be in a crazy great hurry to get somewhere.  When you’re flipped over in a snow bank I suppose your priorities might change.

Work has been painfully dead, so what better way to wile away the time than by going through all the dead files and taking out everything that’s over seven years old?  Right.  After several hours of that my brain is also dead.  And the Shred-It box is about to burst.  Something to anticipate.

I’m trying so hard not to hate the snow, because hate is such a wasted emotion, but damn, I hate the snow.  It’s cold and it hurts my eyes.  It has to be brushed off my car.  It freezes to my windshield.  It covers up ice patches and lures me right to them, looking all fluffy and innocent.  Or it forms itself into crunchy ruts and hard packed drifts so it can chew up the snow shovel and spit it out, smirking like a bratty child.  No, I haven’t heard snow laugh yet, but it’s probably only a matter of time.

Snow Cat

Snow Cat (Photo credit: clickclique)

November is no doubt a perfectly lovely month in many other parts of this world.  I need to go to one of those places one of these dreary Novembers.  Meanwhile, I’ve jacked up the heat and hunkered down with my back to the windows and a glass of wine in my hand to help me forget what month it is.  As well as who I am and where I live, if I’m lucky.  Maybe later I’ll come up with my very own spirit yell.  I might have to send W out at some point on a wine gathering mission, but I’m not going anywhere today.  No no no November.

Life Is Too Short To Be Anything But Happy


I copied this from someone on facebook.  I think I used it as a status update once.  Still think it’s worth repeating.  Pretty much like everything else I’ve said more than once but at least this one I actually remember having shared before.

We had our week late Easter dinner with eleven out of a possible 15 people present and accounted for.  Today was a very successful day for surrounding myself with people who make me laugh.  I think my brother is an inspiration to us all having been the latest one to fall down and get back up.

He also makes a wickedly good red wine!  Although he confesses it doesn’t always turn out the way he expects it to.  He was able to take a couple of empty bottles home tonight and I certainly didn’t see anyone dumping it down the sink.

Ever noticed how, when you’re having a REALLY good time, nobody remembers to take pictures?  I’m playing Words with my oldest grandson so it’s not like I didn’t have my phone with me (except when I had to recharge it and eat and pour more wine.)  I’d like to say I also helped with the clean up and the dishes but I won’t because I didn’t.  The kitchen was way too crowded.  And then people were going home and it was too late for photos AGAIN.  I would make a pathetic historian.

Now it’s late and I’m tired and I think sleeping in is the next thing on the agenda.  Only two days left before I head back home.  Time flies.

Easy to Give/Hard to Take

Since I rarely take advice from the living, I don’t know why I would suddenly be seeking it from some dead guy.

Most advice is non-specific and therefore useless anyway. Things like

– stop worrying

– quick, think of something!

– be happy

– relax

– find some time

– stop thinking about it

– don’t laugh, don’t cry, don’t fall asleep

– calm down

Hah. Easy for you to say.

But I guess if my arm was being twisted and I HAD to come up with some historical person PLUS think of some kind of recommendation that I might actually pay attention to, my choice for all that would be a chat with Nostradamus.

I would ask him what I should be doing to prepare for the end of the world in December of 2012.

And if his advice was “stop being such a flaming idiot”, I would take that as a good sign.

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Relationship Tips

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Five tips for a woman….
1.  It is important that a man helps you around the house and has a job.
2.  It is important that a man makes you laugh.
3.  It is important to find a man you can count on who doesn’t lie to you.
4.  It is important that a man loves you and spoils you.
5.  It is very important that these four men don’t know each other.